Learn How to Deep Throat and Blow His Mind!

Deep throat blow jobs – men LOVE then. They take practice and a bit of hard work but having this power over a guy is well worth the effort in my opinion…

Before you learn how to deep throat you need to learn exactly what it is! It is the art/skill of swallowing a man’s cock deep into your throat as you suck him off.

To do it you need to be able to train yourself not to react when your gag reflex is triggered by his dick hitting the back of your throat.

The second thing you need to know about deep throating is that most guys love receiving a deep throat blow-job. Especially since it reminds them of those funny movies that they watch on certain websites 😉

But deep throating is an advanced sexual skill. If you are a newbie to this then I advise learning how to give good blow jobs first.

How to do it, step by step

First of all the goal is to be able to take the cock past the back of your mouth, and keep going so it goes down your throat. Normally this would cause you to gag (like putting two fingers down your throat) but with practice this will stop happening (or at least happen a lot less often).

Before you go any further just be aware this isn’t easy. So its only worth trying if you really want to get good at giving amazing blow jobs! Also it can be a little embarrassing and awkward as you learn, so its best to try it out with a supportive partner.

Basically there are no special techniques, all you have to do is try swallowing his cock. At first this will make you gag, want to vomit and even panic a bit.

Don’t worry! Just stop, take a little breather and try again. Focus on relaxing and take it very slowly. Also make sure he doesn’t thrust into you at the wrong movement or he might end up covered in vomit! (I suggest telling him to take it easy as you are practicing. We all know how carried away guys can get when they are horny!)

As you practice, you will notice the gag reflex is less powerful and happens less often. As this happens you will notice you can take his cock deeper into your throat without feeling like you are going to choke.

As with most things in this life the more you practice the easier it gets. You will find yourself being able to take his cock deeper into your throat until you can swallow his whole cock easily.

Once you get this skill handled it is a lot of fun, not just for him but for you as well. Men love to get deep throated and knowing you have the power to blow his mind will be a huge turn on for you.

As with all sexual techniques learning how to deep throat is a combination of communication, trust and lots of yummy practice. The sooner you start and the more you practice the better you will get.

If you have any questions please feel free to ask below…
If you have any extra advice to share I would love to hear it…

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How to give good blow jobs

Do you want to learn how to give good blow jobs? Read this post, learn these simple steps then go practise and have some fun…

There are two things I think are really sad about women and blow-jobs.

1 – A lot of women don’t like giving them.

2 – A lot of women are scared of giving them because they don’t know how to give good blow-jobs.

Why don’t some women like giving them and what can be done about it?

  • The man’s cock might be unclean.
  • They might not like having cum in their mouth.
  • They might think it’s dirty or slutty in some way.

The first one is simple to sort out. If you are confident enough then you can just tell your man if he wants more blow-jobs he needs to wash his dick.

But if you aren’t confident then a nice trick is to wait until he gets out of the shower, or ask him if he want’s to take a shower with you, then you can make sure he is nice and clean before you drop to your knees! 🙂

While I love it when a man cum’s in my mouth I totally get that you might not like it! My advice for this one is to make a deal with him before you start. Tell him he can have lots of lovely blowjobs as long as he always tells you just before he cums so you don’t have to taste his cum.

If you think it is dirty to suck his dick my heart goes out to you. Doctors will tell you there is no hygiene risk from sucking him off and it can be so much fun once you let go of this. The best thing to do is talk to your girly friends (or your gay mates) and ask them if they think it’s dirty. I guarantee some (probably all) of them wont.

If you think it is slutty in some way, again my heart goes out to you. I strongly believe that we have bodies with sexual organs so we can use them for fun and enjoyment. If men, other women or society in general have conditioned you to feel guilty about enjoying sex that’s a great shame.

My advice would be to read some books on sexuality, talk to your more open-minded friends and if your issues cause you deep emotional stress get some professional help.

BUT if possible just say a big “FUCK YOU” to anyone who judges you for enjoying sex, they are either jealous or feeling guilty about their own desires and as such have no right to judge you

So what if you want to give good blow-jobs but don’t know how?

Here are my top ten tips to help you give good blow-jobs

  1. Make sure he is clean if it’s important to you. Trust me there aren’t many men who would mind washing their cock if it means they will get a blow job for being a good boy!
  2. If you don’t feel confident just fake it until you make it. I know it can feel scary at first, but put your best face on, relax, take a deep breath and go for it…IT’S NOT THAT HARD (pun intended 😉 )
  3. Make sure his cock is wet and slidey. Saliva works wonders for this so make sure you have a drink handy to keep your mouth nice and moist.
  4. Don’t just use your mouth get your hands involved as well. Tickle his balls, squeeze them, cup them in the palms of your hand. Stroke his belly or run your hands along his legs. If you are feeling really naughty slip your hand around and tickle his butt hole.
  5. Start off gently, don’t suck straight away, lick up and down, tease the head. Build anticipation and watch him squirm.
  6. I find it is easiest if you hold the base of his cock with one hand while you suck him off but sometimes it’s fun to let it flop about while you chase it with your mouth. Have fun with it, when he sees you enjoying yourself it will turn him on even more.
  7. Put it in your mouth and suck on it like you suck on a lollypop, personally I like to feel his dick against the back of my throat but there is no need to take it any deeper than you feel comfortable with. If you just keep sucking up and down his dick like this he will cum and he will love it!
  8. When you want him to cum suck harder and start to move your mouth up and down faster and faster.
  9. If I get tired I will use my hands more to go up and down his shaft and keep my mouth around his head so I can rest my neck. Sometimes I blow on the tip or spit on it (Guys LOVE this).
  10. If you want to get even better learn how to do deep throat and experiment with rimming!

Note – Remember every man is slightly different so you will need to experiment a bit before you get this perfect. Also you can learn new skills over time, this is just a basic guide to get you started.

Do you have any questions? Do you have any tips for how to give good blow jobs?

Post your thoughts below…

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Looking for an Anal Sex Guide?

Are you interested in trying out anal sex, but don’t want it to hurt? Check out this step-by-step guide and then go enjoy yourself with your new skills…!

  • Are you nervous about your first anal sex experiment?
  • Do you want an easy to follow anal sex guide so it goes really well for you and your partner?

Check out these ten super-easy to follow steps to help you both enjoy your first time anal sex experiments…

  1. Talk about it and make sure you are both keen to give it a go. Especially for whoever is receiving it, anal sex will only be fun if you are relaxed and comfortable with it all. So before you give it a go, talk it through so you are well prepared.
  2. Start off with some fantasies. Naughty texts and emails. Maybe some dirty talk over the phone or when in bed together. By using fantasy before you try it for real, it will make you much more horny when you do give it a go (this is really important).
  3. Pick the right time. Make sure you wont be disturbed. Whoever is going to be taking it, needs to have gone to the bathroom and feel clean and relaxed.  Maybe have a drink or two to help get you both in the right mood.
  4. Get really horny before you start. Have fun with it. Maybe give each other a few orgasms before you even start. Lots of kissing, cuddling, foreplay. If you increase the bond of intimacy between you both then you are already on the right path to sexy anal fun.
  5. Lube, lube and more lube! Lube is really important for anal sex. Use it. Use lots of it. Use more than you think you need too. Got that? Good! Now use some more lube!
  6. Practice with fingers and toys first. Use small vibes and fingers first. Inserting small objects helps to relax and open the anus making it much more likely to take a cock without too much pain. (Make sure any fingers don’t have rough finger nails).
  7. Use butt plugs. After fingers and toys you can use butt plugs to really open the anus up. This is a great way of making sure it doesn’t hurt too much when you take the next step.
  8. Start off very, very slowly. You are not a porn star! Don’t treat anal sex like vaginal sex. Go slowly and focus on enjoying those lovely tight sensations.
  9. Get past that first initial pain and it will start to feel great. If you are on the receiving end when the cock is inserted you will probably feel some pain at first. But if you breathe, focus on relaxing around the cock and tell your partner to stay still for a few seconds the pain will go away and it will start to feel nice. Remember if you use butt plugs first before you have anal sex this will reduce this pain a lot.
  10. Relax and enjoy it if you can, but if you cant then stop and take a break. It can take a few attempts to get over the fear and really relax into it! Trust me it will be worth it. For who ever is doing the fucking anal sex is a big turn on and for whoever is taking it can produce mind-blowing orgasms (in both men and women).

There you go, I hope this step by step anal sex guide helps you have some fun and success. Anal play can be so much fun.

It is not dirty, or weird and there is nothing wrong with it. It’s just another great way for all of us to enjoy our bodies.

So give it a go and make sure you comment below and let me know how it went..?

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What are the Sexiest Social Media Sites for Naughty Fun?

Social media is an amazing online phenomenon. Social sites can be a great place to share erotic stories, flirt and even meet people for sexy fun. But some sites are definitely better than others…

Do you like flirting and chatting with sexy people online?

I love it! In fact that’s why I built this website (well actually I got some geeks to build it for me but you know what I mean lol).

With the explosion of social media websites over the past few years there are some great choices out there and most people tend to play around with at least two or three.

I’ve made a list of my faves below, I’ve put the good points and the bad points for each one and also links so we can hook up and play together… Yay! 🙂

Secret Erotica

Ok, ok, I admit I’m biased BUT the reason Secret Erotica exists is because I wasn’t happy with the other networks and wanted to make a much better one for me and everyone else to enjoy.

Good points:

  • As it’s purely for sexy fun there is (almost) no censorship and no one who gets offended if they find something naughty.
  • Simple to use and easy to interact with other members.
  • Instant chat (yes it can be used one handed 😉 )
  • STRICT policy on trolls, bullies, idiots and weirdo’s.
  • Library packed with free erotic stories.
  • Writers can share their own sexy stories.
  • Personal touch, the owners of the site are active members.

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Not so good points:

  • It’s new so there are still a few little glitches to be ironed out.
  • As it is new there aren’t millions of users (…yet).


Good points:

  • Quite random this can be a lot of fun.
  • Lots of sexy people to play with.
  • Good for finding offers on sex toys etc.

Not so good points:

  • No sexy library.
  • Some censorship, but you can get away with a lot 😉 .
  • Quite a lot of weirdo’s.
  • Impersonal, I have no idea who owns Twitter but I’m sure they aren’t following me…!

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Good points:

  • Plenty of people to play with.
  • Not too much censorship.
  • Easy to use.

Not so good points

  • Doesn’t let you add people you don’t have a connection with, which makes it really hard to make new friends.
  • Not a dedicated sex site so non-flirty members often won’t approve of your shenanigans.
  • The way the feeds work mean you can easily lose touch with people.
  • They will restrict your account at the drop of hat.
  • LOTS of creepy guys.
  • No erotic library.

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  • Lots of sexy people.
  • Easy to use.
  • Lots of groups to join.

Not so good points

  • Really strict censorship, accounts get banned all the time.
  • Not a dedicated sex site so non sexy members can get a bit grumpy or judgmental.
  • Google has this annoying habit of trying to make all your Google accounts join up! I might not want my YouTube friends to know what I’m up to on G+ thank you very much!!!
  • You can’t send private messages. You have to go through ‘Hangouts’ – WTF..!?!?!
  • Google hangouts mean you can get hounded a lot by idiots.

Check out the Secret Erotica G+ page here…


Good points:

  • Very little censorship
  • Lots of sexy people
  • Some good adult stories

Not so good points

  • Not great for one on one interactions, no chat etc.
  • Really it’s more of a blog platform than a social media site.

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So, my honest opinion is that if you are looking for a sexy social media community to play in Secret Erotica is the best!

Check out this video to find out why…

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Lola’s in Love! Why I Love My Sex Toys

I’m in love and its with some battery powered pieces of plastic. I love my sexy adult toys and think every girl should have a good collection of them…

Sex toys are great! I love them because they take away my frustrations and replace them with warm happy vibes (pun intended). I take them everywhere with me, I have too! Sometimes it’s the only way of dealing with life’s pressures. I can’t live without my trusty toys and the day my vibrators break is the day I buy new ones.

I also love using different sex toys with my partners because it’s fun, experimental and adds variety to longer sex sessions. Here are some of my favorites…

G-spot vibrators are my all time favorite ever. I hope who ever invented them is a millionaire because they deserve to be. I have helped five good friends find their g-spot by recommending this toy… It’s a winner.

Clit vibes are my second best friend. Cumming from both vaginal and clitoral stimulation at the same time is a massive thrill for me and I recommend it to any lady.

Anal beads and anal vibrators are a fantastic invention for fun antics. Tip… Try pulling them out as your partner orgasms to make the orgasm much more intense.

Whips and paddles. If you are like me and like a little pain then these gems are a must in your toy box. There not just for spanking an ass, try lightly whipping pussy for a buzz that makes you cry for more!

Restraints. They don’t have to be handcuffs, try silk ties or girlie belts. Being tied up and unable to touch yourself or your partner is a sure way of driving you wild.

Cock rings are awesome for cow girl position. It’s a rubber band with a small vibrator attached to it that fits on the man’s penis and can help you reach orgasm through your clit while you ride his penis so it’s on your g-spot.

Ladies… Using sex toys on yourself can help you explore your sexuality and help you understand how your body works. Using them with your partner helps give him a better understanding of how and what you like.

Guys… Please don’t feel threatened by sex toys, women love the real thing much more than anything else it’s just they love their toys as well.

I know there are many more toys on the market so comment below and tell us what they are and why you like them. Click here to check out our huge range of sex toys (all at super low prices…)

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