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Learn How to Deep Throat and Blow His Mind!

Deep throat blow jobs – men LOVE then. They take practice and a bit of hard work but having this power over a guy is well worth the effort in my opinion…

Before you learn how to deep throat you need to learn exactly what it is! It is the art/skill of swallowing a man’s cock deep into your throat as you suck him off.

To do it you need to be able to train yourself not to react when your gag reflex is triggered by his dick hitting the back of your throat.

The second thing you need to know about deep throating is that most guys love receiving a deep throat blow-job. Especially since it reminds them of those funny movies that they watch on certain websites 😉

But deep throating is an advanced sexual skill. If you are a newbie to this then I advise learning how to give good blow jobs first.

How to do it, step by step

First of all the goal is to be able to take the cock past the back of your mouth, and keep going so it goes down your throat. Normally this would cause you to gag (like putting two fingers down your throat) but with practice this will stop happening (or at least happen a lot less often).

Before you go any further just be aware this isn’t easy. So its only worth trying if you really want to get good at giving amazing blow jobs! Also it can be a little embarrassing and awkward as you learn, so its best to try it out with a supportive partner.

Basically there are no special techniques, all you have to do is try swallowing his cock. At first this will make you gag, want to vomit and even panic a bit.

Don’t worry! Just stop, take a little breather and try again. Focus on relaxing and take it very slowly. Also make sure he doesn’t thrust into you at the wrong movement or he might end up covered in vomit! (I suggest telling him to take it easy as you are practicing. We all know how carried away guys can get when they are horny!)

As you practice, you will notice the gag reflex is less powerful and happens less often. As this happens you will notice you can take his cock deeper into your throat without feeling like you are going to choke.

As with most things in this life the more you practice the easier it gets. You will find yourself being able to take his cock deeper into your throat until you can swallow his whole cock easily.

Once you get this skill handled it is a lot of fun, not just for him but for you as well. Men love to get deep throated and knowing you have the power to blow his mind will be a huge turn on for you.

As with all sexual techniques learning how to deep throat is a combination of communication, trust and lots of yummy practice. The sooner you start and the more you practice the better you will get.

If you have any questions please feel free to ask below… If you have any extra advice to share I would love to hear it…

Love

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Tips for the Ladies

Ladies, check out this post and learn how to have as much fun as possible in the Secret Erotica community and sexy library…

How to get the most fun out of Secret Erotica

Welcome to the Secret Erotica blog. I wrote this post to try and help make sure you get as much fun as possible out of our secret sexy community. So far we’ve found that most of our female members come to the site for four main reasons:

1. To read erotic stories.

2. To share their own erotic stories.

3. To chat and interact with like-minded people.

4. To find and meet a real world playmate.

The simple steps below will help you on your Secret Erotica journey to find fun and fantasy in whatever way you choose…

Step one – If you haven’t done it all ready claim your free membership! Click here to find out more or watch this short video to help you make up your mind.

Click here to claim your FREE membership

Step two – To read erotic stories, once you have created an account visit the sexy stories library and browse to your heart’s content! If you find some stories that you really like please be kind and put a nice comment in the replies section so the author knows you enjoyed their work.

Step three – To share your own writings and sexy stories, you will find easy to follow instructions to help you on your way. Once you have posted your story make sure you share it a few groups to get it seen by lots of our horny members!

Step four – To find people to chat with, search the groups menu and find the areas that interest you the most. Join in and see where it takes you!

Step five – To find a real world playmate, the first step is to make sure your profile and your avatar are funny/sexy/interesting. Then join in the community activity or browse our members and see who tickles your fancy.

Top Tip – One thing we’ve noticed is that members who write and then share sexy erotic stories get a lot more attention than those who don’t!

There you go. Some nice easy tips to help you get the most from the site.

Have a good one!

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The Deep Spot: The Easiest Way to Give Any Woman a Vaginal Orgasm

Do you know what the deep spot is? Do you know how to find it and how to stimulate it to give women insanely powerful vaginal orgasms? Read this post and discover everything you need to know…

Easy to Learn, Powerful and Very Effective!

Note – This blog post is mainly written for people who want make women cum (guys and gals) but if you are a woman and have never experienced a deep spot orgasm please read on. Once you know what it is you can teach your lover a new exciting way to make you cum. (Maybe even send your lover a link to this blog post).

Before I go any further I need to give credit to a man called David Shade, it was from him that I learned about the deep spot (and a lot of other amazing techniques that I will save for another blog post)! David is a remarkable man, he rose from the ashes from a painful divorce to become one of the most skilled sex experts there is. The methods he teaches REALLY WORK and he has a free download that’s well worth checking out on this link…

Some questions:

What is it?
How do you stimulate it?
What is so special about it?

What exactly is this secret spot?

It is a smooth frisbee shaped area, deep inside the woman’s vagina close to her cervix. It is sensitive enough to give powerful orgasms but not overly sensitive (like a clit just after orgasm). This means with firm regular stokes the deep spot can be used to give a woman powerful orgasms with NO CLITORAL STIMULATION again and again.

How do you stimulate it?

This technique is very simple but it does take a little bit of practice. Get your lady to lie on her back with her legs wide open and her knees bent. Insert your middle finger as deep as possible inside her and make a “come hither motion” almost as if you are trying to tickle the back of her belly button from the inside out. Try a few different areas until she starts to respond with pleasure and then just repeat until she cums.

The technique really is that simple but the reality is that you might find it a bit tiring at first. Your arm and finger night get a little achy! Don’t worry just keep practicing until you build up the stamina.

Also you will find she gets so horny she wriggles about a lot with pleasure making it hard to keep your finger on the magic spot. There is a simple solution to both these problems – Put your spare hand on her belly and push down towards your finger. This helps you keep your fingertip in the right place, it helps you when your fingers get tired and it also increases her pleasure (by allowing you to push harder).

Learn how to stimulate the deep spot — Make Her Orgasmic!

What is so special about the deep spot?

First of all it is the easiest and most effective way of giving a woman a vaginal orgasm. Most women think that they need clitoral stimulation to cum and by giving her a vaginal orgasm (with no clit stimulation) you will blow her mind.

Secondly, very few people know about this. So if you use this on a woman it will very likely be the first time she has experienced it.

Finally as the deep spot is not as sensitive as her clit, she can take repeated stimulation even while cumming. This means you can use it to give her very long, intense orgasms like she has never had before.

To find out more about the deep spot (and the other secret and immensely powerful techniques David teaches) – Check out this free download with some insane techniques to sky rocket your sexual skills!

It is real easy once you know how and you will soon have the power to make any woman cum harder than she ever has in her life! Also don’t forget that women talk to each other, especially about great sex. if you get this skill mastered and do a good job on one lady, she will tell her friends and then guess what might happen..? 😉

Have a good one!

PS – Don’t forget to leave any comments or questions you have in the box below, I am here to help.

PPS – If you click on the David Shade link above he will give you a ton of amazing free stuff, he will also offer you the chance to buy some advanced sexual skills courses. I love his stuff and highly recommend it but of course feel free to just take the free bonuses and don’t spend a dime, his free stuff is still well worth grabbing!

How to give good blow jobs

Do you want to learn how to give good blow jobs? Read this post, learn these simple steps then go practise and have some fun…

There are two things I think are really sad about women and blow-jobs.

1 – A lot of women don’t like giving them.

2 – A lot of women are scared of giving them because they don’t know how to give good blow-jobs.

Why don’t some women like giving them and what can be done about it?

The man’s cock might be unclean.
They might not like having cum in their mouth.
They might think it’s dirty or slutty in some way.

The first one is simple to sort out. If you are confident enough then you can just tell your man if he wants more blow-jobs he needs to wash his dick.

But if you aren’t confident then a nice trick is to wait until he gets out of the shower, or ask him if he want’s to take a shower with you, then you can make sure he is nice and clean before you drop to your knees! 🙂

While I love it when a man cum’s in my mouth I totally get that you might not like it! My advice for this one is to make a deal with him before you start. Tell him he can have lots of lovely blowjobs as long as he always tells you just before he cums so you don’t have to taste his cum.

If you think it is dirty to suck his dick my heart goes out to you. Doctors will tell you there is no hygiene risk from sucking him off and it can be so much fun once you let go of this. The best thing to do is talk to your girly friends (or your gay mates) and ask them if they think it’s dirty. I guarantee some (probably all) of them wont.

If you think it is slutty in some way, again my heart goes out to you. I strongly believe that we have bodies with sexual organs so we can use them for fun and enjoyment. If men, other women or society in general have conditioned you to feel guilty about enjoying sex that’s a great shame.

My advice would be to read some books on sexuality, talk to your more open-minded friends and if your issues cause you deep emotional stress get some professional help.

BUT if possible just say a big “FUCK YOU” to anyone who judges you for enjoying sex, they are either jealous or feeling guilty about their own desires and as such have no right to judge you

So what if you want to give good blow-jobs but don’t know how?

Here are my top ten tips to help you give good blow-jobs

Make sure he is clean if it’s important to you. Trust me there aren’t many men who would mind washing their cock if it means they will get a blow job for being a good boy!

If you don’t feel confident just fake it until you make it. I know it can feel scary at first, but put your best face on, relax, take a deep breath and go for it…IT’S NOT THAT HARD (pun intended 😉 )

Make sure his cock is wet and slidey. Saliva works wonders for this so make sure you have a drink handy to keep your mouth nice and moist.

Don’t just use your mouth get your hands involved as well. Tickle his balls, squeeze them, cup them in the palms of your hand. Stroke his belly or run your hands along his legs. If you are feeling really naughty slip your hand around and tickle his butt hole.

Start off gently, don’t suck straight away, lick up and down, tease the head. Build anticipation and watch him squirm.

I find it is easiest if you hold the base of his cock with one hand while you suck him off but sometimes it’s fun to let it flop about while you chase it with your mouth. Have fun with it, when he sees you enjoying yourself it will turn him on even more.

Put it in your mouth and suck on it like you suck on a lollypop, personally I like to feel his dick against the back of my throat but there is no need to take it any deeper than you feel comfortable with. If you just keep sucking up and down his dick like this he will cum and he will love it!

When you want him to cum suck harder and start to move your mouth up and down faster and faster.

If I get tired I will use my hands more to go up and down his shaft and keep my mouth around his head so I can rest my neck. Sometimes I blow on the tip or spit on it (Guys LOVE this).

If you want to get even better learn how to do deep throat and experiment with rimming!

Note – Remember every man is slightly different so you will need to experiment a bit before you get this perfect. Also you can learn new skills over time, this is just a basic guide to get you started.

Do you have any questions? Do you have any tips for how to give good blow jobs?

Post your thoughts below…

Love

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Looking for an Anal Sex Guide?

Are you interested in trying out anal sex, but don’t want it to hurt? Check out this step-by-step guide and then go enjoy yourself with your new skills…!

Are you nervous about your first anal sex experiment?
Do you want an easy to follow anal sex guide so it goes really well for you and your partner?

Check out these ten super-easy to follow steps to help you both enjoy your first time anal sex experiments…

Talk about it and make sure you are both keen to give it a go. Especially for whoever is receiving it, anal sex will only be fun if you are relaxed and comfortable with it all. So before you give it a go, talk it through so you are well prepared.
Start off with some fantasies. Naughty texts and emails. Maybe some dirty talk over the phone or when in bed together. By using fantasy before you try it for real, it will make you much more horny when you do give it a go (this is really important).
Pick the right time. Make sure you wont be disturbed. Whoever is going to be taking it, needs to have gone to the bathroom and feel clean and relaxed. Maybe have a drink or two to help get you both in the right mood.
Get really horny before you start. Have fun with it. Maybe give each other a few orgasms before you even start. Lots of kissing, cuddling, foreplay. If you increase the bond of intimacy between you both then you are already on the right path to sexy anal fun.
Lube, lube and more lube! Lube is really important for anal sex. Use it. Use lots of it. Use more than you think you need too. Got that? Good! Now use some more lube!
Practice with fingers and toys first. Use small vibes and fingers first. Inserting small objects helps to relax and open the anus making it much more likely to take a cock without too much pain. (Make sure any fingers don’t have rough finger nails).
Use butt plugs. After fingers and toys you can use butt plugs to really open the anus up. This is a great way of making sure it doesn’t hurt too much when you take the next step.
Start off very, very slowly. You are not a porn star! Don’t treat anal sex like vaginal sex. Go slowly and focus on enjoying those lovely tight sensations.
Get past that first initial pain and it will start to feel great. If you are on the receiving end when the cock is inserted you will probably feel some pain at first. But if you breathe, focus on relaxing around the cock and tell your partner to stay still for a few seconds the pain will go away and it will start to feel nice. Remember if you use butt plugs first before you have anal sex this will reduce this pain a lot.
Relax and enjoy it if you can, but if you cant then stop and take a break. It can take a few attempts to get over the fear and really relax into it! Trust me it will be worth it. For who ever is doing the fucking anal sex is a big turn on and for whoever is taking it can produce mind-blowing orgasms (in both men and women).

There you go, I hope this step by step anal sex guide helps you have some fun and success. Anal play can be so much fun.

It is not dirty, or weird and there is nothing wrong with it. It’s just another great way for all of us to enjoy our bodies.

So give it a go and make sure you comment below and let me know how it went..?

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Love

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