10 Things Women Do In Bed That I Love

I love fucking women. Not only do I find them very attractive but they do some little things that just blow my mind and get my cock throbbing with excitement and pleasure…

My last blog post was a bit of a rant. I listed 20 things women do during sex that really piss me off. This blog post is going to be much more positive, it’s about the things women do in bed that I love.

If you are a woman and you don’t do any of these things perhaps you should think about giving them a go? If you are a guy and would like your lady to do any of these why not send her this link as a not so subtle hint? 😉

Give blow-jobs (and expect nothing in return) – This is one of my all time favorites. I love it when a woman sucks my cock and then lets me chill out. No expectation of a favor being returned, no need to fuck her, go down on her or anything else. JUST a blowjob and that’s it! (Trust me ladies you will reap the rewards for this in the long term.)

Give massages – Sexy ones or even non-sexy “sort out my tired muscles” ones. Either is good and a combination of both at the same time is even better.

Dress up – Lingerie rocks. I know you ladies sometimes have different tastes than us men but there is always some common ground. Find something that makes you feel sexy and turns your man on and it’s a win-win situation. (IMO win-win is the way forward wherever possible in all aspects of life including sex)

Fly solo – There is nothing that turns me on more than watching a woman play with herself until she cums (preferably more than once). It’s so sexy it hurts!

Help me out from time to time – I love being a good lover, I work hard at learning as many sexual skills as possible and always want my woman to feel sexually satisfied. But sometimes it’s not that easy. Women are complicated so any help or advice is greatly appreciated. Just show me the path and I will follow it.

Swallow – You might not want to hear this but IMO unless you swallow my cum it’s not a proper blowjob! I don’t really know why I like this so much but I know that I do. BTW never spit it into my mouth I DO NOT WANT TO EAT MY OWN CUM. Unlike some guys I have no issues with kissing you straight after you’ve swallowed but that’s as far as it goes for me.

Share naughty secrets – I know what you women are like! You are all very horny, very dirty and fantasize A LOT. Don’t be shy, share that stuff with me and then I can use it to improve our sex life!

Bite me – HARD…But only when I’m having an orgasm. I love it and it makes my orgasm much more intense.

Take control – Most of the time I’m a very dominant lover but on occasion there is nothing nicer than lying back and letting a woman take control.

Squirting – This one is very rare. All women can squirt but very few know how to. Watching a woman have a whole body orgasm and squirting from her pussy is very, very sexy!

Guys – Leave your comments and add your personal faves to the list.
Girls – Take note and hit me up with any questions or thoughts.

Have a good one!
Jack

20 Things Women Do in Bed

Rant, rant, rant!!!! I am sick of women complaining that men are bad in the sack when there are so many things the ladies could do so much better…!

Which Make Me Mad..!

Ok, before I start this post let me make something clear. I love women. I am not a woman hater and I’m not about to give you a long rant about how women are all terrible in bed! But I am going to rant about some of the annoying things women do in bed. I’m doing this so I can let off some steam, so other men can agree and so women can learn. Two points to consider first of all:

1. A lot of women (and media targeted at women) are constantly bitching about how men are crap in bed.
2. In my experience very few women are great in bed. (Don’t worry ladies after I’ve had my rant I will offer some solutions.)

I find this combination a bit hypocritical and irritating and once I’ve let off some steam I’m going to propose some solutions. (Stick with me here ladies, I promise this is going to get a lot more helpful!) So here are the ten things women do in the bedroom that piss me off:

Treating my dick like it’s a piece of gym equipment! – Be gentle ladies. My cock might not be as sensitive as your clit but it still needs a gentle touch. Don’t grip it like a dumbbell and whatever you do don’t pull my foreskin back too far THIS REALLY HURTS.

Biting my dick! – I know this isn’t the same for all guys but for me personally when I’m getting a blow job I don’t want you to bite the end of my dick! Use your tongue and your lips to blow my mind, but keep your teeth well away from the tip of my cock.

Expecting me to do all the work! – Don’t lie back and expect me to do all the work, it’s lazy and selfish. Sex is best when both partners want to give the other pleasure, when both partners want to give more than they receive. This is a very simple way to make sex better.

Bending my dick into uncomfortable positions. – Often reverse cow-girl but in some other positions as well. If you need to hit a certain spot I get it, but my dick can snap under pressure. If it does, blood will pour out of the end of it and it wont work for months! Be careful with your lover’s prick or you may just lose your favorite toy.

Faking orgasms – Don’t do it. If your man is terrible in bed it kids him into thinking he is doing a good job and for those of us that can tell the difference it is a major turn off.

Not helping me out/Expecting me to know everything – I am not a mind reader! Women are complicated creatures. They all have different sexual needs and those needs differ from day to day. If you don’t give me some clues as to what you want it is very hard for me to guess.

Ass attack – I’m all up for a bit of bum fun BUT I have no desire for anyone to ram a badly aimed and sharpened nail up my butt with no warning or lube. There is a time and place for this sort of fun and it usually involves at least some sort of planning and preparation.

Nipple fiddling – I HATE this one. During foreplay I like having my nipples squeezed and nibbled. But often after sex a woman will start to fiddle with my nipples as if to give her fingers something to do. This really pisses me off so don’t do it!

Telling me they are going to cum (too early) – Two of my best friends have an issue with this as well. For guys, when a woman says “I’m going to cum” it can very often push us over the edge to cumming very, very quickly. Sometimes a woman will say it far too early and then we end up cumming before she gets a chance to! Clearly not good for anyone involved.

Keeping too many secrets – So many times when I ask a woman “what do you fantasize about” or “what would you like to try in bed” they reply “nothing”. Yeah right lol! You never fantasize and you don’t have any sexual desires, are you a fucking robot!?!

So, as promised, for any of you ladies reading this, here are my solutions:

Treating my dick like it’s a piece of gym equipment! – Each cock has its own preferences but the skill here is to start off gently until you know what your lover prefers.

Biting my dick! – Don’t do it unless it is requested. Keep your teeth away from any dick you suck!

Expecting me to do all the work! – Just get off your lazy ass and do something. If you feel unsure or nervous about taking action, have a chat with Lola in our community and get some sexy skills to use on your man.

Bending my dick into uncomfortable positions – If you are trying out some crazy new position double check that your lover is cool with it and then start off slowly until you know his dick is safe.

Faking orgasms – Don’t do it. If your lover is so bad that you feel you have too, you might want to think about getting a new one!

Expecting me to know everything – I know in your ideal fantasy world you wouldn’t ever have to tell a man anything and he would still know every tiny detail of how to give you the best fucking of your life. BUT this isn’t an ideal world so help your man out and you will reap the rewards!

Ass attack – Just be careful around that sensitive area and always use plenty of lube!

Nipple fiddling – Maybe this one is just me, ask your man and see if he feels the same?

Telling me they are going to cum too early – Don’t say you are going to cum until you are very, very close. Then say it; please do, as it is very sexy!

Keeping too many secrets – Do your best to share your desires and fantasies. It will improve your sex life.

In my next blog post I’ve listed the ten things women do in bed that I love. I don’t want to spend any more time on the negative side of sex, so I’m going to celebrate the amazing things women do in bed, check it out here…

Please feel free to comment using the form below (it will be spam checked and then go live). I would love to know your thoughts and hear any questions you might have?

Finally if you haven’t done so already check out our amazing community of very sexy people here…

Have a good one!
Jack

10 Things Guys Do During Sex That I Hate!

Ok, I admit this is me having a huge rant about the annoying things men do in bed..! Ladies check it out and join in the rant. Guys its time to learn what NOT to do…

Let’s get this straight I am not a man hater! I love men BUT sometimes they do things that drive me insane. There are lots of good things that guys do to me in bed, in fact there are a lot before they get me into bed (giggle 😉 ) but that’s another blog post. This blog post is just me letting off some steam. I am having a rant for myself and all the women out there because I’m so tired of men that are terrible in bed.

Just so you guys don’t think I am a complete bitch I am going to give you some advice so if you want to change any of these problems you can do (you will be a better sex partner for doing so). Also my partner in crime Jack is going to write a similar blog post aimed at women and what turns him off (equal rights lol 😉 ) Ok here goes…

1 – Cleanliness. You expect us to be clean, hairless and manicured yet can’t even be bothered to wash your own armpits properly! Sort it out…Be clean, smell nice and tidy up your pubes. It’s only fair!

2 – Not enough foreplay. You get turned on like a light switch (in a split second). We on the other hand are more like a dimmer switch…We like to be turned on slowly and gradually. Take your time guys. Unless we are gagging for some rough action take it slow. Build us up. Tantalize us for a while… Go on I dare you.

3 – Not keeping rhythm. This one is fairly simple to explain again but takes practice in the real world. Women like in both foreplay and sex in a steady rhythm. We do not like sporadic jerky actions. We do like the rhythm and tempo to increase as long as the rhythm stays steady. You will be able to tell this from our body language and the noises that we make.

4 – No confidence. Sleeping with a strong confident man allows me to be at my sexiest. Even if you don’t feel confident, just pretend and it will come with experience (AKA fake it til you make it). I understand that some of you guys might not feel very confident and might not have all the skills you need to start taking control in the bedroom. But you have to start somewhere and the longer you let it carry on like this then the harder it becomes. Take a big breath, relax and take control of the situation, it will be fine.

5 – Be more vocal. I want a man that knows how to enjoy himself. If a man does not talk or make any noise during sex I worry he is not enjoying himself. If he shows me how much fun he is having I stop worrying and start having even more fun.Talking naughty is music to my ears. Making some noise and expressing how much pleasure you are having when you cum blows my mind. Try it.

6 – Not listening. THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST ANNOYING OF ALL!!! If I tell you to spank my bottom then spank it and take that bit of information and store it so I do not have to repeat myself. I do not want to be telling you every time I want my hair pulled as frankly it turn’s me off. The only thing I can do here is tell you. If you don’t listen to your girl and you keep making the same dumb mistakes that turn her off the chances are she will cheat on you, dump you, or both. Don’t say I didn’t warn you!!

7 – Fucking me like you are trying to drill a hole in a reinforced concrete wall. THIS IS NOT SEXY. Quite a lot of the time I like to be fucked hard but what I do not like is passionless, repetitive, high speed thrusting. Learn about when the time is right. Here is a tip… it rarely is!

8 –Ramming fingers up my butt without warning. I want to make it clear that I love bum sex BUT it has to be right. Put it like this how would you like it if during sex or foreplay a girl shoved there finger or a dildo up your arse with no warning. Some ladies might enjoy this but I don’t, there is a time and place for shoving things up my bottom. I don’t like surprises and I need lots of lube.

9 – Premature ejaculation. It is not nice guys, we want to cum too. For a short fix I suggest condoms with a climax control lubricant in and for the long run do lots of kegel exercises. Also make sure your licking and fingering skills are up to scratch until you get this handled. (Check out this awesome blog post by Jack for some great advice on delaying ejaculation)

10 – (Last but certainly not least) Putting me on a pedestal and treating me like a princess. Of course I want you to find me attractive and yeah I like it when you make me feel sexy but please do not devalue yourself in the process. Don’t be over the top with compliments. Don’t treat me like a princess who has never seen cock before. Do treat me like your special horny bitch. I am not your mother or your sister and I am certainly not a nun.

Rant over! My next blog will be ten things I love about men during sex.

Guys I hope you will take heed. I am sure some of you will want to leave me a comment and you are more than welcome too. If you want to learn an easy, fast, effective way to take any woman to sexual ecstasy read this blog post.

Ladies if you want to add your comments then please go ahead, the more tips we give these men the better it is for us.

Love
Lola
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PPS – As promised here is Jack’s post where he has a rant about all the annoying things women do in bed…

Are You Tempted by Girl on Girl?

Would you like to know what it feels like to sleep with another woman? Do you catch yourself checking out the hotties and wondering what it would be like to get naked with them? So did I until I gave it a go…

A lot of women fantasize about or would like to try girl on girl action. Some women would just like to know what it would be like to kiss another girl. Some women would actually like to explore another woman’s body. Many women have tried it and enjoyed it enough to try again. Some women are just happy with the one experience so they know what it is like. Some women along with their partner would like to try a threesome with another woman.

If you are tempted by girl on girl then read on…

First thing you need to do is to accept that it is a perfectly natural thing to be interested in. It doesn’t mean you will experience an instant transformation into a big, butch lesbian! Unless of course you want to in which case I say go for it! 😉

It is on the other hand a cool and fun experience to try so if you are tempted then do your best to let go of any silly fears of instantly turning gay! (Not that it would be a bad thing but you get my drift)

If you want to give it a go there are two main areas you need to think about.

First of all is finding the right girl. This can be tricky but don’t worry just keep reading for some advice.

Second you need the skills and the “know how” to make sure you both have a good time.

Finding the right girl… The pro’s and con’s

Experimenting with a friend – The pro’s are you already know each other, trust each other, care for each other and probably already have a spark of chemistry. The con’s are it might (if you let it) ruin a valuable friendship.

The Internet – The pro’s are the people you meet will be strangers this means they are less likely to be freaked out by your bi-sexual nature and if it doesn’t work out you won’t lose someone close to you. Also you can look at the pictures to see if you fancy them, read their profiles to see if they are your type of person and it’s easy to find ladies that are looking for girl on girl fun. The con’s are they may not be who they say they are. There is a slight risk of danger and you don’t really get to know the person until you meet them in the real world.

Socializing in bars/clubs – The pro’s are you get to know what they look like, its easy to flirt with girls when they are in party mode and you know that you are reasonably safe (as long as you are in a public place when you get to know them). The con’s are you may make a mistake because of the alcohol and you may struggle to find a gay/bi lady that’s interested.

How to make it fun…

  • Don’t get too drunk.
  • Make sure you pick the right girl. Chemistry is more important than looks.
  • Make sure your atmosphere is right at home I.E. Music, candles and NO children.
  • Take it slowly.
  • Don’t worry too much about making her cum.
  • Focus on having fun and exploring each others bodies.

Join our community! We have a women only section (wink, wink) where you can openly chat to our ladies about anything you desire. We have some wonderfully sexy stories from our members on their first experiences with girl on girl action and you can join us right here, right now!

Love
Lola

How to Use a Vibrator

Do you want to learn how to use a vibrator? Are you interested in using one on yourself? Or on your partner? Find out everything you need to know in this blog post…

Easy to follow tips and advice.

If you want to find out how to use a vibrator on a woman its probably for one of two reasons:

  1. You want to know how to use one on yourself.
  2. You want to use one on your female partner.

Using a vibe for masturbation:

  • Make sure you wont be disturbed or over heard – There is nothing wrong with what you are doing but it still could be pretty embarrassing if you get caught. Pick a time and a place where you know you can sit back, relax and enjoy your new toy to the max.
  • Make sure you have plenty of batteries – If your toy needs batteries make sure you have new ones and even some spares (trust me there is nothing more disappointing than running out of power when you need it the most!). If you use toys a lot I really recommend investing in ones with built in rechargeable batteries just like you have for an electric toothbrush or a phone.
  • Use fantasy if it helps you get super horny – I love fantasizing, it always gets me in the right mood. If you need some inspiration check out our sexy stories on this link…
  • Start off with the settings on low – Don’t crank the power up straight away, it is always nice to leave a little more intensity for when you really crave it.
  • Explore the three main areas – Inside your pussy, your clit and your butt (if you like the idea of it). This is your toy and your body. Explore it in whatever way feels good to you. If you want to tickle your butt with it then go for it! If you want to fuck your pussy really hard with it then go for that as well. If you want soft gentle vibes on the tip of your clit then please do it and enjoy it. (I love doing all three of these by the way tee hee hee 😉 )
  • Relax and let your body tell you what it wants – When you first use a sex toy it might feel a bit strange. This is perfectly normal, just keep going and let the sensations in your body tell you what it needs to reach orgasm.
  • Practice makes perfect – Like every other skill, playing with toys gets better with practice…YIPPPEEEE! That means you need to spend a lot of time playing and each time you do it you will get better and better.

Using a vibe on your lady:

  • Get her in the mood – Women usually get turned on like a volume knob, slowly and gradually rather than an on/off switch like men. By using dirty talk, making her feel relaxed and giving her lots of foreplay you will have her begging you to use the vibe on her.
  • Tease her first and warm her up – Don’t dive straight in it, try to tease her a bit first. Maybe tickle her nipples with the toy. Try running it over her feet or up the inside of her thighs. This will build up the anticipation, the desire and sexual tension.
  • Be gentle at first – Ladies can be very sensitive, especially on the tip of their clitoris. So don’t turn the vibrations up too full and don’t apply too much pressure when you start using the toy on her pussy.
  • Explore the areas she will find sexiest – Run it up and down her pussy lips, tickle her ass with it, slide it inside her and use it on her clit.
  • Explore her g-spot – If you don’t know what or where the g-spot is read this link on G-spots
  • Anal play with a vibrator – Some ladies love having their ass stimulated or even fucked with a vibe. Two things to remember about this. Firstly only go there if she is cool with it. Secondly whenever doing any sort of anal play always use a lot of lube…The more the better!
  • Watch and listen to her signals – Women tend to give a lot of signals as to what they do and don’t like. Moans and groans, little hip wiggles, heavy breathing etc. If you can read these signals you can become a seriously good lover as this is the secret key to her deepest desires.
  • Increase the pressure, speed and intensity when you want her to cum – Turn up the vibe and move it faster. Do this gradually and watch to see if she enjoys it. You can even ask her if she likes it, but usually it will be very obvious.
  • If you struggle, give it to her, watch and learn – Using a vibe on a woman can be tricky at first. If you are not getting her horny, give her the toy and tell her to show you what she likes. Watch, learn and then try to do the same.
  • Practice makes perfect – Yes the more you do this the better you will get. By the way, if you ever want more sex or more blow-jobs the best thing to do is get very good at giving her orgasms and then she will be much more likely to repay the favor.

So now you know exactly how to use a vibe why not check out my sex toy shop and treat yourself or your lady to a new sex play toy or two…

Love
Lola